Si asked, in regards to "dungeon experiences:"
I certainly did experiment further. I'm trying to discuss this stuff in chronological order, though, so I will get around to expanding on that in due time.
While I found J physically appealing, that was the least important of his qualities. He wasn't particularly handsome by societal standards (or hung like a horse), but he was attractive to me. I'm sure if I didn't know him like I did he would not have turned my head on the street. I've never been particularly superficial when choosing boyfriends (although I was when choosing clients). What's goes on inside an individual's head is far more important a consideration to me than what they look like if I'm going to be sharing emotional and intellectual intimacy with them.
Joe also said:
No, I was definitely never looking for a D/s experience with my clients. Knowing what I know now, I can't conceive of relinquishing all control to someone I barely know. For one thing, that would not be very smart or very safe. But more importantly, and it's difficult to explain, but just because I have a submissive nature when it comes to sex (and nothing else, actually) does not mean that I feel comfortable submitting to just anyone that labels themselves a Dominant. I have to be inspired by something particular in a man's personality to wish to submit to him, and trust him implicitly on top of that. It's a rare combination of factors and not a combination I ever expected or even hoped to find while escorting. I didn't want my limits pushed at all, and in fact, I got rather irritated with anyone who was even remotely pushy with me even via email and would decline to see them based on that.